Episode 2: Who Do You Think You Are? 5 Steps to Reshape Your Identity

Welcome back to the Vision to Victory podcast blog—where we talk about practical ways to turn your dreams into reality. Today, we’re diving into something deeply personal and incredibly powerful: identity.

Let’s start with a familiar phrase: “Who do you think you are?”
We often hear this in a negative tone—maybe in an argument, or when someone’s confidence is mistaken for arrogance. But what if we flipped it? What if that question became a tool for self-discovery?

I want to invite you to ask yourself: What do I believe about myself?

Because what we believe about ourselves directly shapes the direction of our lives. Beliefs form the foundation for our thoughts, which drive our actions, which create our results. So, if we want different outcomes, it starts with examining our identity.

Here are five practical steps to help you reflect on and reshape the beliefs that are driving your life.

1. Make Space for Introspection and Reflection

Our lives are noisy and full of distractions. If you want to evaluate your identity and beliefs, you must create space to slow down and think.

Whether it’s in the morning with a cup of coffee or in the quiet of the evening, set aside intentional time to reflect. Ask yourself:

• How do I spend my time and energy?

• Why do I do what I do?

• Are my beliefs supporting or limiting me?

These aren’t questions you can answer while multitasking. Deep reflection requires stillness—and that stillness is where change begins.

2. Identify Specific Beliefs

Once you’ve created space to reflect, it’s time to pinpoint the specific beliefs that are shaping your behaviors.

Let me share a personal example:
I didn’t finish college after high school. I entered the workforce, and while things went well professionally, I carried a quiet belief that I wasn’t smart enough or good enough. I didn’t realize it at first. On the surface, I was confident—even ego-driven at times. But underneath, there was a subtle imposter syndrome tied to not finishing school.

Eventually, I recognized that belief and decided to do something about it. I went back, finished my undergraduate degree, and even earned a master’s in business. Not because I had to—but because I wanted to prove to myself that the old belief wasn’t true.

Once you recognize a limiting belief, you can take back control.

3. Define the Actions to Rewire Those Beliefs

Beliefs aren’t changed by wishful thinking. They’re reshaped by action.

Once I identified my limiting belief, the action was clear: go back to school. And once I completed that goal, I had real evidence to contradict the old narrative. That evidence helped rewire my belief—not just about school, but about my ability to follow through.

Ask yourself:

• What action would disprove this belief?

• What step could I take that builds confidence and momentum?

This is where things shift. Action creates progress. And progress rewires beliefs.

4. Build Habits and Stay Consistent

Once you’ve defined the actions that support the identity you want to build, consistency is everything.

Here’s something I say often:
Consistency beats intensity every time.
One six-hour workout won’t change your body. But 30 minutes a day for a month will. And the same applies to identity work.

To stay consistent, I like to anchor new habits to existing ones. For example, when I started taking daily supplements, I’d often forget—until I put them next to my coffee maker. Since I never miss my morning coffee, I never miss my supplements either.

Figure out what consistency looks like for you. What routines can you build? What systems can you put in place? Even on days you don’t feel like it, show up. Let your values—not your feelings—drive your decisions.

5. Embrace the Process and Adapt

Identity is not a one-time decision. It’s a process. A lifelong journey of evolving, maturing, and adapting.

Your goals will change. Your priorities will shift. That’s not a failure—it’s growth.

When I was younger, I wanted to be rich. Over time, I realized it wasn’t about money—it was about freedom. And today, even more than freedom, I want purpose. I want to make a difference in other people’s lives.

So be willing to revisit your beliefs, redefine success, and evolve as life changes.

Final Thoughts

Your identity should never be left to chance. You have the power—and responsibility—to shape it intentionally.

Let me leave you with this quote from Brad Pitt, who once said:

“The human superpower is the ability to reinvent yourself. Once you realize that, everything changes.”

You’re not stuck. You’re not broken. You’re in process.
So ask yourself again: Who do you think you are?
Then go become that person—on purpose.

Thanks for tuning into Vision 2 Victory, watch the full episode here.